Perhaps the most important and best thing we can ever do for ourselves is not to allow others to persuade us out of what we truly Believe. The things we know won’t harm us. The things that would never cause us to lose our health and to truly be able to give to others, not just one person. It is EXTREMELY important to look out for ourselves. I hold on to values of really not trying to hurt someone else. I have however also gotten vengeance on someone that hurt me and it didn’t really do much in the long run. By that, I mean, it didn’t change that person from ever wronging me again. Sure, it hurt the person I got back, yet it didn’t change anything in our relationship in the long run. I know that sounded repetitive.
Some of my values and beliefs have changed incredibly in the last three to four years. I definitely see things from a totally different perspective than all of the members of my Immediate family and perhaps even differently than my extended family. I told myself that I would be completely vulnerable and share some of the beliefs that I have. I have definitely changed my Spiritual perspective and that is only because the Christians in my Life have tunnel-vision. They don’t have the same heart as me when it comes to possibly opening their doors up to someone who could be homeless, especially not their own bloodline. I have been homeless and felt like I had no control of my own Life and decisions and nowhere else to go and no one else to turn to for Safety. Do not get me wrong though, and I am completely sounding like a double-standard here, but there are certain people I would not open my door to as well. Two of my most memorable experiences of people in my Life that were not Christian who did anything for me were my Catholic friends. My old friend and acquaintance Katey and her parents opened their doors to me when I was struggling and also my Pretend adopted mother Geneva. I will never forget either of these Groups of people for as long as I live. I would elaborate on the Story, yet it just goes to show that good things and miracles come when you least expect and from people you least expect.
The last four men I had had a relationship and friendship with were completely toxic to me and really had nothing to offer me. I made believe in my mind that they had something to give as I had seen them give to other people in both big and small ways. I wanted to be given the same way. I wanted to feel Safe and protected by them. I compromised everything and all my Values for them, for a false fantasy. Needless to say, lessons are definitely learned. I am probably Only going to say this once, if you are a Parent, PLEASE NEVER hesitate to tell your children to “Love themselves”, explain what it means, to not Sacrifice your own health and mind over someone else, especially if they hurt you once or even maybe a dozen times. There needs to be a line you draw, a Boundary.
There is so much fun relative to the Values you hold true to. A new value I am going to hold on to much like the word Loyalty is being Competent. My therapist at the moment just shared this word with me and I’m going to tell you that I have seen this word so many times in my Job Search. Companies and people want someone who is competent and able and who is fully going to Show up. Ironically, I already knew this, it’s just I have to constantly tell myself EVERY SINGLE Day just as I will show up for myself in my own Business!!!
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