I actually can’t believe I am about to say this, but it seems most of my Life I have felt too afraid to accomplish the small goals towards my Bigger goals and Dreams that I wanted. For instance, being a Small Business Entrepreneur, it seems nowdays that more and more Business are also Online Marketing and advertising. All of that can be used to explain at a later time, I suppose. The bottom line for me is that I have held myself back, given up, taken much longer than needed breaks, allowed others to persuade me not to go down a certain path on my way to the bigger path. Mostly I believe, I have held my own self back, yet it was easy for me to blame others. I needed a more supportive Group of people surrounding me. I needed people who maybe had the same goals or direction as I did or that knew how to get me to the final destination. Perhaps even a researcher or personal assistants, and even other people who could and would be assigned to certain tasks to help me get to a certain goal faster. I have seen this with other Authors I have followed. I needed a ‘Supporting Cast’ to be guided to the desired outcome.
When I see other people succeed, I often wonder how big a team they have working with them or standing behind them? There are so many successful people who have Businesses and who are branding and marketing themselves online. This is how I imagine other places of Business, celebrities, writers, Managers and leaders are. They all have to have a team of people, no matter how big or small.
Within the last month or so, during the Covid-19 Pandemic, I had a conversation with my sister explaining briefly my desire to have a ‘Supporting Cast’. She didn’t ask me what it is that I thought someone would do to help me out? No one in my extended or immediate family has ever asked me. The worst part is when someone has Limited Beliefs about what someone can do. It seems I will have to work on it alone, “independently”, assigning myself small goals and tasks to get me to the next step on my own!
Most of the people in my family have doubts about themselves, didn’t believe they could do something, or we just simply thought about something more than we took an action to accomplish it. It takes tons of Researching, learning, writing, and pure God-given talent and ability to retain information to be useful in the Real World, to be able to contribute to the World and others. It is completely sad when we judge ourselves and our abilities. When we don’t believe we are good enough. I am shaking my head a little. I believe that having Limiting Beliefs is a conditioned and learned experienced passed down from our parents and from other people who are negative minded, or just don’t have a belief that ANYTHING is possible or can be done if we believe in it strongly enough. People can be told repetitively that something may not work and then we REALLY, TRULY believe it; therefore never even giving it a chance or try.
I believe that when we have Limiting Beliefs, the next step is to really seek Validation and Positive affirmations from an Outside source. I have been advised not to seek Outside Validation. I believe it’s healthy to be given positive affirmations. It helps feed our subconscious into doing Greater things. I will tell you what!, the last 5 months have been phenomenal for me because I have found so much outside validation to get me motivated, pumped up, enthused, maybe a little more confident about approaching my goals. I have learned what to say to myself, how to talk positively about myself, how to deal with my emotions, how to build Resiliency, how not to listen to others’ negative opinions about whether I could or could not accomplish something. It has taken me a long ass time to Validate myself, as I could not ever get it from people who could not ever give it to me.
Perhaps include a Story about how other people had Limited Beliefs and where they got them from???
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